Child Psychology: Children's distraction is instinct, if you want to cultivate concentration, grasp these 3 psychological skills

Psychologist Daniel Gorman put it this way: ''Concentration can affect a person's ultimate achievement more than IQ. ''

If you want to study well, having concentration is a very important indicator. If a child's attention is only a few minutes, then it will not be able to achieve a good absorption effect in the classroom. Besides, having concentration is not only directly related to the child learning outcomes, as well as the learning of other life skills.

In fact, it is very normal for children to have poor concentration. This is due to physiological reasons. It is the nature of children to be playful and active. Children do not have a very standard concept of what matters. They prefer and pay more attention to themselves. Interested things, I am not so interested in some tasks assigned by parents or boring learning, so there is often a problem of lack of concentration, but because parents have a wrong understanding of concentration, when educating children It is easy to fall into the misunderstanding, and thus has little effect.

1: What are the manifestations of children's lack of concentration?

Poor stability, poor breadth, poor concentration, poor sustainability, and poor transfer and distribution capabilities.

The specific situation is that you always like to do small movements in class, and you always procrastinate when doing homework, and you just can't concentrate your thoughts; or you have poor reading and writing skills, poor reading skills, and can't even keep up with the normal reading speed; It seems very serious, but it is limited to the appearance. In fact, it is "in Caoying and in Han", and my thoughts do not know where to go; or, it takes 5 minutes to do homework and 10 minutes to rest. You can't focus on your homework, you can't get into the state all the time; your ability to switch thinking is weak, and your adaptability is poor.

These are all manifestations of children's poor attention span. I believe that many parents have found similar situations in their children.

The famous Italian educator Monte Rousseau once said: ''The best way to learn is to let children concentrate on learning. ''Nowadays people are becoming more and more aware of the importance of focus.

Concentration is the foundation of learning and the basic ability of children to adapt to the environment. It has a great impact on children's growth. UNESCO pointed out that children's concentration is the main reason for children's learning differences.

In addition, the famous French biologist George Cuvier also once said: ''Genius, first of all is concentration.

Two: What are the benefits of cultivating children's concentration?

1. Children's learning is more efficient

If the child's concentration is strong, he will be more serious and careful in learning, and he will be able to concentrate and concentrate more. He can concentrate on listening in class, and can also do review and homework after class. Then the child's learning Efficiency is naturally higher. We often emphasize that we must pay attention to the lectures in class, but many children are always easily distracted and cannot keep up with the progress of the class, which leads to the fact that the knowledge points mentioned by the teacher cannot be well accepted by the children, and they fail to grasp the knowledge points, which affects the children's Learning and grades, learning efficiency will naturally be low.

2. Children are more responsible

Concentrated children are always serious, responsible and meticulous about things. They will not back down in the face of difficulties, they will not easily compromise, they will always chase the quality of things, and they will not waste time and energy on unnecessary things. , but to distinguish between the light and the heavy, focus on the important things, and constantly maintain focus.

What parents need to understand is that children are always happy about the things they like, just like no matter how noisy the surrounding environment is, children are still staring at video games on their mobile phones , This all shows that children are born with a sense of concentration, but it needs parents to carry out correct guidance and training.

3. Reasons for children's poor concentration

1. Parents are impatient

It is said that you can’t eat hot tofu in a hurry. Parents’ words and deeds have a great influence on their children. However, many parents do not have this awareness. They are impatient and distracted when doing something. The state is often easy to give up halfway. These behaviors are a demonstration to the child, which has a subtle influence on the child, and gradually the child develops the habit of inattentiveness.

2. The influence of electronic products

Today's era is the era of electronic information, and mobile phones have become a very important tool in everyone's life. More and more "low-headed people" appear and gradually become younger. Adults can't help being addicted to mobile phones, and children are even more They will be attracted by the colorful content of mobile phones, and some parents have no time to accompany their children because of their busy work, so they will throw a mobile phone for their children to pass the boring time or use it as a contact tool. Who knows that children are more and more addicted to it. Among them, many children who are addicted to electronic products focus on their mobile phones, and it is difficult to focus on learning.

3. Parental intervention

Some parents like to interfere with their children's behavior, or some children's play behaviors are meaningless to parents, and parents will interrupt their children's tasks at hand. This is a process of cultivating attention, and parental intervention is likely to cause children to lose interest in things they like and accumulate slowly, which makes it difficult to concentrate.

4. Children of different ages have different concentration

Research has shown that younger children normally spend less time focusing. A three-year-old can maintain concentration for about 5 minutes, a four-year-old for about ten minutes, and a five- to seven-year-old for about fifteen minutes. So if you ask a three-year-old child to pay attention to one thing for ten minutes, it is of course difficult to do, but if you think that the child's attention is insufficient at this time, it is an incorrect understanding.

Mark Twain once said: ''As long as you focus on one career, you will surely make achievements that surprise you. ''

Concentration is not innate, it is an ability that needs to be cultivated and exercised to improve. If parents consciously cultivate their children's concentration from an early age, it can help children to be more efficient in learning and make children more interested in learning. Interest in improving children's academic performance can also allow children to be more efficient and secure in the face of what they want to do or when they are asked to do something in the future, so that they can play with the highest efficiency. initiative and innovation to achieve success.

Four: Cultivate children's concentration and grasp these three psychological skills

1. Cultivate children's initiative psychology

When children are studying, parents must create a good learning environment , and not only when they are studying, but also in daily life, parents should also consciously create a good learning atmosphere, set more role models in front of their children, and guide their children. Concentrate on one thing. When children are studying, turn off all noisy sounds. Parents should not play mobile phones or watch TV again. Don't interrupt children frequently, which will cause children's thoughts to be interrupted.

2. Reduce the psychological pressure of children

When faced with a task that requires a lot of energy and time, parents can guide their children to learn to decompose the task and complete a certain amount of tasks over a period of time, which can avoid the child's impossible mentality when faced with a huge task. , causing the child to withdraw and not have the courage to face it. It can also relieve the child's psychological pressure through task decomposition, so that the child has a sense of achievement in stages, so as to be more motivated to take the next step.

3. Satisfy the child's companion psychology

Sometimes children learn because they feel that they are alone, especially when facing hardships and problems, they will have a feeling of isolation and helplessness, which requires parents to invest together when children focus on a certain activity. Accompany the child and guide the child to concentrate more. During this process, parents can ask questions and find answers together with their children. This will make the child feel more secure and satisfied, and will be more focused and warm up the parent-child relationship because of the company of the parents.