A good accompanying reading is not 24 hours. Set up ''task nodes'' to make accompanying reading more efficient and effective.

Accompanying reading, as the name suggests, is a behavior in which parents participate in the whole process from the life of the child to the study, which is also a very common situation in the current society. Parents who know how to accompany reading skills can not only become good helpers in their children's study and life, but also become good teachers and friends for their children. However, on the contrary, if parents who do not accompany their children to read with them always supervise their children with high intensity, or intervene too much, always nagging and directing, they will restrict the growth of their children.

As more and more working mothers resign and go home to serve as accompanying mothers, the freedom of children is also limited to a certain extent. They want their mothers to go to work or give themselves some free space, instead of watching them all day long .

I have a friend who gave up work because of the child’s study and started to work at home to accompany his mother full-time. Every day is child-centered, every day he wakes up an hour earlier than the child, and then helps the child prepare breakfast and ask for Wear clothes, call the child to wash up, help the child to check whether the books and stationery are all in the process of washing and eating, take the child to wait for the school bus after the child is full, and watch the child When I got on the school bus, I got home and started doing housework. In the afternoon, when the child comes home from school, friends begin to supervise and guide the child to do homework, and some behaviors of the child are not only supervised, but also intervened"'This can't be done''''Have you done it well? ''''Why is it so slow'', so sometimes children also ask impatiently: ''Mom, why don't you go to work, the parents of classmates all go to work. ''

At this time, the friend will answer bitterly: ''Mom is not all for you. ''

When this 24-hour accompany study lasted for a month, problems began to appear. The child began to lose initiative and always went back to study under the supervision of the parents. If she did not check her homework and organize her schoolbag, she would There have been a lot of sloppy and sloppy situations. Seeing the child become like this, my friend finally realized that his approach might be wrong.

Not only my friends encountered this situation, but many parents also showed a kind of unlovable appearance when they mentioned accompany reading. It seems that accompany reading is a process of consuming their own energy for them, which makes people feel physically and mentally exhausted. We will find that the less you do not know how to accompany reading skills, the more tired parents will feel. Parents who know how to read with them will feel that reading with them is a very happy thing and a process of enjoyment.

1: What are the adverse effects of wrong accompanying reading on children?

1. Children develop a mentality of dependence

If the head writer quits his job and devotes himself to the process of accompanying reading, then he must be very attentive to the child's every move. Just like my friend, he starts to do everything for the child from the moment he wakes up in the morning. The purpose of the management is that the child only needs to study hard, and the child does not need to worry about other things. Even the inspection of the schoolbag and the homework is done by one hand. Over time, it is possible to not develop a dependence mentality. These are the formation of a lazy habit. And when the day comes, if parents don't help their children, the children will not have the sense of autonomy in this regard, but will blame the parents for not helping themselves.

2. Limit your child's development

Originally, there are no limits to the development of children. Driven by curiosity, children will explore more areas that they are interested in. However, because of parental supervision and intervention, there are many behaviors that parents see as ignorant. , is a waste of time, so it will stop the child, think regardless of the child's feelings, and force their own thoughts on the child. Such excessive intervention will limit the child's development, and the child will become involuntarily under the control of the parent. No matter what he does, he will ask the parent for advice. From the parents' point of view, this is the child's This kind of obedient and sensible performance, but in fact it is not conducive to the development of children's innovation and autonomy.

Correct accompaniment reading can not only effectively supervise children's progress in learning, but also help children develop independent learning habits.

2: What positive effects will the correct reading with children bring to the child?

1. Keeping children with low self-control under control

There are too many temptations for children in the current electronic information age. These external attractions can easily lead to children being unable to concentrate on learning, which means that their self-control ability is reduced. Accompanying reading has just begun to learn a little mandatory supervision and control behavior. way, just to control these children with poor self-control.

2. Reasonable planning arrangements

The method of systematically implementing the learning plan and the goal is very suitable for children. Parents can clearly observe the child's learning progress when reading with them, and can also formulate corresponding goals according to the child's own situation and achieve the goals. The reward, motivated reading and considerate reading, will definitely bring a good promotion effect to children's learning.

3. Children develop good study habits

Accompanying reading can bring many positive and positive effects to children. Self-directed learning is a good study habit that can be learned first. In the process of accompanying reading, children can feel the charm and importance of learning. Cultivation, but also gradually improved in the accompanying reading.

Education experts give this advice:

Accompanying study must have a plan, what is the purpose of accompanying study? As a parent, we must analyze the real situation of the family, formulate a plan, and move towards the goal.

Moreover, it should also be combined with the child's own situation. For example, the child is relatively young, or the child has problems in learning or behavior and psychology. It is necessary for parents to accompany the child to study, and they must plan the child's study and life. The children make a daily task list together, stick to it, and persevere.

Therefore, a good accompanying reading is not 24 hours. Setting ''task nodes'' can make accompanying reading more effective.

Three: How to carry out ''task node'' accompanying reading?

1. Develop a goal plan

Parents must first understand their child's learning situation, and plan and analyze together with their children. Remember that the goal setting here is not so far-reaching and ambitious. It can also be achieved in a small stage. Children are motivated.

2. Parents inspect the completion of the task

To let children realize that tasks and goals must be carried out when they are formulated, and they must work hard to achieve their goals. This should not be regarded as an empty promise. Parents should follow up and supervise the completion of children by time periods. , there is no need to be guarded 24 hours a day. Whenever a goal or task point is completed, the child will report and summarize the exchange to the parents.

3. Clear rewards and punishments

However, it is often difficult for children to persevere if they want their children to work hard to achieve their goals, so moderate incentive measures are necessary. Rewards for keeping promises, and criticizing children if they are lazy or perform poorly on tasks.

4. Parents and children learn together

Accompanying reading is not just about parents watching their children and children studying alone. Accompanying reading more refers to parents and children reading and learning together. This approach can also motivate children and make children feel that they are not fighting alone. Parents can also use this method to improve their own ability level and learn more knowledge to supplement and guide their children's learning.

Accompanying mothers can let children see a positive self, instead of a role that only revolves around children all day long. There is room for mutual learning and mutual respect in the process of accompany reading, and accompany reading is meaningful. The years are tiring but happy, because the child has only been studying for more than ten years. In the past ten years, the parents have witnessed the child's learning progress and growth. These times will be the most beautiful and warm memories in the future. A confession of the longest love I have grown up with you.