What does it feel like to have a first child, a second child, or a son? The answer from the visitor is disturbing
Since China fully liberalized the two-child policy, more and more families have chosen to add an extra member to their families. But at this time, the problem of having boys and girls began to affect the parents' mood again. Nowadays, the most controversial situation is the first birth of a son, and the second birth of a son. Many parents say that the pressure of having two sons is too great.
How does it feel to have two children in a row?
Previously, a poll was launched on the Internet. The content was: If you were a parent, would you choose to have a second child if you had one child? If yes, do you want the second child to be a son or a daughter? The number of people who participated in the survey and voted reached more than 8,000 people, of which 6,892 people said they would choose to have a second child, but among these people, only 863 people wanted the second child to be a son, accounting for less than 20%. .
Such a data shows that although most people can accept a second child, parents may be somewhat resistant if both children are boys. Interestingly, at the bottom of this vote, many parents who have given birth to two boys have issued dissuasion, hoping to persuade parents who are planning to have two sons to give up the idea: ''It is too hard to have two boys, it is necessary to have two boys. Taking into account their current growth expenses, but also worry about their future development. ''So, what are the disadvantages of having two boys in a family?
Disadvantages of having two boys
- economic spending problem
Many people can be more confused about this, don't you need financial expenditure to have a daughter? In fact, whether it is male or female, financial expenses are necessary. It's just that the son's role as a supporter of his parents in the future requires more financial support from his parents.
To give a simple example, when the child grows up and is ready to form a family, in most areas the daughter gets married, and the man needs to receive the gift, which will be accepted by the woman's parents. Therefore, if two boys are born, parents also need to be prepared to assist the children with the ceremony.
- property division issues
When the child grows up, as the boy in the family, it is customary for the parents to distribute the property to the child. For a family with only one boy, the impact of this matter itself is very small, and it only needs to distribute most of the property to the boy.
But for families with two boys, dividing up property has always been a thankless task. Nowadays, due to the division of property, there are many cases where brothers turn against each other and parents and children break up. If the parents do not handle it well, the two children may have extreme behaviors because of this.
We all know that real estate such as houses and cars is actually difficult to divide by equal value. Therefore, when parents divide property, it is often not as easy as they think. In order to better protect the interests of the two children, parents sometimes even need to ask for legal help.
- Increased stress in old age
If a family has two boys at the same time, then when the children grow up and become a family, the parents' old age may not be smooth. Nowadays, more and more people are working hard for their careers and have no time to take care of their families, and often need parents to help take care of their children. Such a phenomenon itself is putting pressure on aging parents.
For families with two boys, the pressures of parental old age are even greater. Since two children must be given equal care, two elderly people need to take care of children in two families at the same time, which is undoubtedly a rather severe test. In addition, if the two sons are quite different in age, it means that some parents still need to shoulder the task of taking care of their children and grandchildren when they are very old, which is really stressful for the elderly.