'I would rather have a dog than my parents', I thought it was unfilial, but I got the support of everyone
China is a country that pays great attention to filial piety. The so-called filial piety comes first, and filial piety to parents is a quality that each of us should have.
A filial person is more likely to be respected and recognized by others, and an unfilial person will naturally be blamed by everyone. But sometimes there will be exceptions, ''unfilial children'' will get everyone's support instead.
Xiaofang is a child from the countryside to the city. Now she has a successful career and a happy family.
In her, we see wisdom and self-confidence, but no one knows what happened behind her back. Maybe she is the role played by Jiang Xin in "Ode to Joy", deeply hurt by her original family.
There are two younger brothers under her, so when she has memory, parents will give the younger brother all the good things in the family.
As long as there is a conflict between the siblings, no matter who makes the mistake, she must be beaten; even in order to let her younger brother go to school, her mother forced her to give up her studies and work to make money...
Xiaofang has always had no complaints, and she also sent the money from her work to her younger brother to go to school according to her parents' request. But then her mother intensified. When Xiaofang happily told them that she wanted to get married, she even asked the other party for a high-priced dowry.
Because I want to leave my brother to marry a daughter-in-law. The man couldn't come up with it, so a couple of lovers were forcibly separated, making Xiaofang completely disappointed with her mother.
Some time ago, Xiaofang's mother was seriously ill, and her two sons were absent from beginning to end. At this time, she thought of her daughter and called her to threaten her work unit if she didn't give her money.
This time Xiaofang did not compromise: she just said: I would rather have a dog than you.
Although Xiaofang's mother has been slandering Xiaofang outside, people who know their family have expressed their support for Xiaofang, feeling that Xiaofang's parents have no face to ask Xiaofang to take care of her.
I thought it was unfilial, but it was supported by everyone.
In a family with children, what should parents do so that they do not hurt any of the children?
1. Treat children fairly
Children are the flesh and blood of their parents, and they have a blood relationship with their parents, which will not change because of the gender of the child.
Whether it is a boy or a girl, as long as they are well educated, they will be successful, so parents should not treat their children differently because of their gender.
Instead, we should treat children fairly and give them equal love, so that children can develop and grow better.
2. Involve children in household chores
Children are members of the family, and parents should make them more involved in housework activities for their creativity, because this can not only exercise children's self-care ability, but also make children more independent.
At the same time, in this process, it can also cultivate children's sense of responsibility, let them learn to cooperate, and make the brotherhood more intimate.
This is a very precious feeling for children. Parents should let their children learn to cherish them, instead of falling into mutual comparison and exclusion.
How to get rid of patriarchal thinking?
1. Improve your knowledge base
Most of the thoughts of patriarchal preference exist in the hearts of the elderly, because they have not received a good cultural education, and they live in an era of patriarchal preference, so this awareness is deeply rooted in the bone marrow.
But we will also find some enlightened parents around, because they may have had the opportunity to receive a good education in the past, and at the same time, they will continue to improve themselves.
This will gradually change their thinking, and gradually become more inclusive and democratic, and naturally they will not favor sons over daughters.
2. Enrich your life
If people's lives are always occupied by children, they will naturally have very high demands on their children.
Of course, this kind of high demand is not necessarily reflected in the hope that the child can stand out, but more reflected in the hope that the child will pass on the family.
Obviously, because of their lack of thought and lack of life, people have no chance to accept new things and have been immersed in the thoughts of the old society.
Strive to make your life colorful, and naturally you will be able to become wider and more enlightened.