How do parents understand the reasons behind their children's dislike of school?

From a psychological point of view, children's weariness is often a manifestation of psychological distress. As a parent, if you want to help your child improve their school weariness, you need to understand what changes have taken place in your child's psychology.

First, our parents have to learn to observe their children's emotions. Don't wait until your child refuses to go to school to fix the problem. This is a very difficult thing for many parents because many emotions are not allowed in terms of education in our country for thousands of years. So now many parents have their own emotions completely suppressed, and of course many children have their emotions suppressed. Therefore, it is not easy for many parents to detect their children's emotions. But there should be many clues in this process, such as your child’s refusal to eat, sleep well, do not want to do anything, get angry, attack others or themselves (many students have suicidal tendencies or even behavior, even some elementary school students have suicidal thoughts), repeated Seeking confirmation (sometimes forcing signals), truancy, etc. Here are some signals. If parents find these signals, they should pay enough attention.

Second, if parents have found such signs, and even children have refused to go to school, what should they do next? At this time, parents need to learn to listen to their children, to listen without judgment, to see what happened and what caused their children to refuse to go to school. The problem at this time is that many of our parents have been reluctant to listen to their children for years, so many children close the window of their hearts to their parents and don't want to talk to them because they don't know what will happen next if they keep talking.

What many parents may not think of is that children are actually very, very considerate of their parents, and they don't want their parents to worry about them. Many times, our children are already in great pain, but they dare not tell their parents, because they are afraid that their parents will worry and feel sorry for themselves. Many children are already very depressed and forced in middle and high school, but they dare not let their parents know that unless they have to, they will not refuse to go to school.

So, we have to try to understand the child's feelings. It's hard, but try not to criticize. This is as much as we parents can do.