How to better regulate emotions?

It is undeniable that we live in a better era than our predecessors, but with abundant material resources, spiritual energy cannot keep up. Such problems can be seen everywhere in our lives.

I always sit at work, but why do I always feel tired?

I was alone for a long time, but when I was looking for someone to be with me, I found myself "feeling never to love again".

Endless entertainment, family visits, when you are in the intricate interpersonal network, your Wei Yi feeling is that no one in the world can understand you.

Many times, the reason we cannot be happy in life is not that we do not have enough time or physical strength, but the so-called mental fatigue that drags down our lives.

So how can we resolve our inner conflicts internally and maintain relative emotional stability externally?

First, you need to recognize and acknowledge your emotions, which can reflect the motivations of many of your inner actions.

We often advise people to "forget it" and "look down on it". In fact, a lot of things are hard for us to laugh at ourselves.

Don't just stress about suppressing your emotions. Sometimes you deliberately want to eliminate certain emotions, and a small firecracker of emotions will explode at a certain moment.

Don't always say "forget your sadness", "let go of your anger", "abandon your fears", etc. Emotions are neither good nor bad, all emotions are protective for you.

Destructively, we reject the need for emotional communication, or the wrong way we deal with it.

At present, many people think that they have a lot of confusion, want to learn the knowledge of psychological counseling, and want to better solve their problems by learning psychology. Such as their own sadness, loneliness, helplessness, fear and so on.

Many times, we always stay on theoretical knowledge to analyze ourselves or others. It is often forgotten that psychology promotes itself precisely in the sense that we need to experience our complex emotions from a sensory perspective and be with them. When you can accept such emotions, when you allow your emotions to arise, that is the beginning of our emotional regulation.

To control your emotions, you can't simply suppress or frantically accuse the other person or yourself, but follow your emotions and be with them - embrace them;