What about social disabilities?

We meet all kinds of people every day. Sometimes we enjoy socializing with other people, and other times we find human interaction exhausting. Some friends who are not sociable ask for advice on how to communicate freely with others, especially how to be natural and polite when making new friends.

For this question, first self-evaluate, do you have social barriers?

Social disorders are divided into social psychological disorders, social function social disorders, and social anxiety disorders. When interacting with people (especially in public places), you will involuntarily feel nervous and afraid, so that you will be at a loss, speak incoherently, and even be afraid of meeting people. This is what is commonly referred to as social phobia and interpersonal terror. Part of it is mainly the fear of the opposite sex, which is called opposite sex phobia. In social communication, there are few successful experiences, many unsuccessful experiences, lack of self-confidence, always think that they are not good enough, and lack the courage and confidence to communicate. Too much restraint on one's words and deeds in social interactions prevents oneself from fully expressing one's thoughts and feelings and hinders the normal development of interpersonal relationships.

How do social barriers develop?

1. Family environment

The family environment shapes people both fundamentally and strongly. People who grow up in families with frequent family conflicts or disharmonious parents' marital relationship are prone to social adjustment problems, among which social barriers are the most prominent. If the communication style learned in the family is used in school and society, it will not be accepted by people, and it will lead to cognitive dissonance, which will exacerbate problem behaviors.

2. Self-awareness

In the new age, some people are only children, more or less self-aware, unable to pay attention to the needs of others, but self-centered. Being looked after by parents at home, judged by grades and achievements at school or in society. The influence of these factors deepens self-awareness. You can't empathize with other people, you can't understand.

3. The utilitarianism of modern communication.

With the development of the times, our life has become very fast-paced, and interpersonal communication tends to be fast-food-style communication, which is more utilitarian. In this process, some people can freely adapt to human nature and human feelings, while others cannot. The conflict between ideal personality and real interests leads to their inner conflict.