What about social barriers?

We meet all kinds of people every day. Sometimes we like to socialize with others, and sometimes we feel that human interaction is very tiring. Some unsociable friends ask for advice on how to communicate freely with people, especially how to be natural and polite when making new friends.

For this question, first evaluate yourself, do you have a social disorder?

Social disorders are divided into psychosocial disorders, social functioning social disorders, and social anxiety disorders. When interacting with people (especially in public places), they will feel nervous and afraid involuntarily, so that they are overwhelmed, incoherent, and even afraid to meet people, which is commonly referred to as social fear and interpersonal terror. Part of it is mainly the fear of the opposite sex, which is called heterophobia. In social interaction, there are few successful experiences, many unsuccessful experiences, lack of self-confidence, always think that one is not good, lack the courage and confidence to communicate. Too much restraint in their words and deeds in social interactions prevents them from fully expressing their thoughts and feelings and hinders the normal development of interpersonal relationships.

How are social barriers formed?

1. Home environment

The family environment shapes people both fundamentally and strongly. People who grow up in families with frequent family conflicts or discordant parental marital relations are prone to social adjustment problems, among which social barriers are the most prominent. If the communication styles learned at home are applied to school and society, they will be unacceptable and lead to cognitive dissonance, which in turn can exacerbate problem behaviors.

2. Self-awareness

In the new era, some people are only children, more or less self-aware, unable to pay attention to the needs of others, but self-centered. Cared for by parents at home, judged by grades and achievements at school or in society. The influence of these factors deepens self-awareness. You can't empathize with others, you can't understand.

3. The utilitarianism of modern communication.

With the development of the times, our life has become very fast-paced, and interpersonal communication tends to be fast-food-style communication, which is more utilitarian. In this process, some people can adapt to human nature and human feelings freely, while others cannot. The conflict between ideal personality and real interests leads to their inner conflict.