How long can the married life of the elderly last? Don't say anything else, at least do these 3 points

Two days ago, Xiaojiu received a private letter from an uncle, which said:

My wife and I are both in our 60s, retired for many years, and have always been in good health and living conditions. We are very loving, even if we are old now, we often have married life, which brings a lot of fun to our later years.

But in the eyes of others and our children, we are considered " old and not serious ", and we say that it is not good for our health. Once, when my daughter helped us clean up the room, she accidentally pulled out a box of condoms, and her expression changed instantly, which made me feel very sad. Over time, my wife and I began to doubt ourselves, are we really wrong?

In fact, there are not a few elderly people who have the same confusion. Taking this opportunity, Ninth Uncle will have a good chat with everyone about this topic today .

1. After 60 years old, can you still have a married life?

With age, the physiological functions of various organs and tissues in the body will gradually decline, and sexual function and sexual physiological activities are no exception.

However, the survey found that recession does not mean complete disappearance, and most elderly people can still have sex.

Professor Pan Suiming, a well-known Chinese sex sociologist , published a survey in his book "Leaving Historical Evidence for "Total Sex". The survey showed that among Chinese elderly people aged 55-61, 53% of the monthly Sexual life is more than 1 time, of which 14% of the elderly can reach more than 1 time per week.

In 2015, a UK survey published in the academic journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour found that a significant number of older people lead an active sex life . In different age groups, the proportion of people who have sexual thoughts is: 95% of 50-59 years old, 84.7% of 60-69 years old, 65.7% of 70-79 years old, and 38.7% of people over 80 years old; The proportions are: 59.6% for those aged 50-59, 44.2% for those aged 60-69, 32.8% for those aged 70-79, and 19% for those over 80.

In addition, the results of a survey of 3,000 elderly people by the Sichuan Sexual Sociology and Sex Education Research Center showed that 83% of men and 70% of women expressed a need for sex among the 60- to 80-year-olds.

A series of survey results have shown that sexual aging does not represent a disappearance. The elderly also have physiological needs, which is very normal.

2. AIDS – The Harmful Consequences of Prejudice

According to data released by the World Health Organization, in 2019, there were 150,000 new HIV infections in China, and as many as 37,000 elderly people aged 60 and above were infected , accounting for 25%. Among them, there were as many as 28,700 cases of infection among men over the age of 60, a five-fold increase from 2010 . Why are the elderly HIV-infected increasing so fast?

The most basic reason is that people are living longer now, and the elderly still have pursuits in life, including sexual needs. Because the secretion of estrogen in elderly women decreases after the age of 50, the demand decreases, while the demand of elderly men tends to be normal, which is also the reason why elderly HIV-infected patients are mainly men.

Secondly, the elderly have needs, but they have no awareness of prevention.

The " 2020 Latest Core Information on AIDS Prevention " released by the Chinese Center for Disease Control and Prevention pointed out that the main cause of HIV infection in older men is "unsafe sex".

In traditional Chinese concepts, " sex " has always been considered the exclusive right of young people, and the elderly are "sexual insulators". Once they talk about sex, they will be labeled as "old and perverted" or "old perverts". It is precisely because of these prejudices that the elderly are ashamed to talk about it , and it is difficult to popularize relevant knowledge. The elderly do not understand the related diseases and have no awareness of taking protective measures. Even if they have AIDS, they do not know how to seek medical treatment, which undoubtedly increases the probability of transmission.

If the society can face up to the sexual needs of the elderly and do a good job of publicizing relevant knowledge, the number of elderly HIV-infected patients will not increase so quickly.

3. The elderly also have the right to enjoy sex

In the face of "sex", many elderly people still find it difficult to overcome, both physically and psychologically. In fact, the elderly can enjoy the fun healthily and safely, if they can do the following.

1. To communicate frankly between husband and wife

Elderly couples should communicate more, understand, tolerate, support and solve problems with each other, so as to maintain the coordination of life, let the relationship between husband and wife enter a virtuous circle, improve the quality and happiness of later life, and avoid the risk of disease through abnormal channels.

2. Take protective measures

Many older people feel that they are infertile, so they give up using condoms and feel like they are wasting money. But in fact, in addition to contraception, condoms can also prevent AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. They are the best way to protect yourself and your partner. You cannot give up using them.

3. Pay attention to medication

As the age increases, the elderly have to face the situation of declining ability, many people choose to take medicine to maintain, and even buy medicine from informal channels. Taking medicine at will can have side effects and even life-threatening. Therefore, the married life of the elderly can go with the flow. If you want to take medicine to improve, you should use it under the guidance of a doctor to avoid adverse reactions.

No one can be young forever, we all grow old one day, and at that time, we will want to live the life we ​​like, be respected, and be understood. That being the case, why not respect the elderly from now on?

References:

[1]Lee D. M. Nazroo J. O’Connor D. B. Blake M. ， & Pendleton N. (2016). Sexual health and well-being among older men and women in England： Findings from the English Longitudinal Study of Ageing. Archives of Sexual Behavior， 45， 133–144. doi：10.1007/s10508-014-0465-1

[2] Older people who are ashamed to talk about sex: who cares about their desires and needs? .Tencent News Guyu data, 2021-10-13

[3] The number of AIDS cases in the elderly is rising rapidly! The reason behind it, many people ignore it! .Health Times, 2018-11-29

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