When 'acting', women are always tired? Or related to 4 kinds of problems, don't ignore her when you love her
Male libido? Or are women more sexually motivated?
25-year-old Mr. Wang encountered this problem. Mr. Wang felt that he was always in the active position of sexual relations, while his wife was very passive.
His wife's low libido even made Mr. Wang wonder if she didn't love herself. Difficulty really has to be like the rumored saying that "a woman is like a wolf in her thirties and a tiger in her forties". After she is 30 years old, she will have passion and can both parties have a satisfactory sex life?
1. Is it true that a woman is like a wolf at thirty and a tiger at forty?
As the saying goes, "a woman is like a wolf at thirty and a tiger at forty", this kind of argument was originally put forward by the famous American sexologist Alfred Kinsey.
In 1953, in his book Sexual Behavior in the Human Female , he asked heterosexual participants of different ages about the frequency of orgasm in a week and found that men were more More frequently in the age of 19, and more frequently in women in their early 30s, leading to the conclusion that "the period of a person's optimal sexual maturity, ability and desire".
But Sydney-based sexology doctor Nikki Goldstein points out that there isn't that much of a difference in sexual desire between men and women, with the biological optimum being in the 20s and 30s.
And this may be because men and women define dimensions differently.
In a 2002 psychological study, the sexual peak was divided into 4 dimensions, namely age, frequency of sexual activity, sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. The study found that the sexual peak of men is defined by "desire", while that of women is defined by "satisfaction" , although the two genders will have different peaks, but throughout the life cycle, it is actually a psychological or physiological response. may be the same.
From a purely physiological point of view, reproductive organs do have a golden age. For example, women's estrogen and reproductive capacity will reach a peak in their mid-to-late 20s, and men's testosterone levels will also decline with age.
But hormonal peaks are not equal to sexual peaks. The quality of a person's sex life actually depends on a series of factors , and many psychological factors can affect a person's feelings about sex at a certain age, including communication with a partner and body confidence. Every adult is different, and it is difficult to predict whether a person's sexual peak is associated with a particular age.
2. Women are often not interested? or sick
The International Journal of Impotence Research published a study on female sexual dysfunction. Researchers analyzed data from 13,882 women aged 40-80 in 29 countries from the Global Study of Sexual Attitudes and Behaviour (GSSAB) and found that 26%-43% of people have low libido, and 18%-41% are unable to achieve orgasm.
If women always don't want to have sex, they may have sexual dysfunction, which can be divided into 4 different types:
1. Low libido and sexual arousal disorder in women
This type includes those who have suffered from a loss of libido, women who often show no interest in sexual activity and difficulty with sexual arousal , reluctance to initiate sexual activity, and a lack of response to a partner's sexual arousal.
If this condition persists for more than 6 months, the incidence rate is as high as 75%-100%, and it can cause distress in women, it can be diagnosed as low libido and sexual arousal disorder.
2. Female Orgasm Disorder
Women of this type are interested in sex and can be sexually aroused, but they experience reduced orgasm intensity and a lack of sexual experience .
This is often caused by certain medical factors, such as having diabetes, high blood pressure and other chronic diseases. Had a hysterectomy and had nerve damage. Have a habit of drinking or using opioids. In addition, the experience of sexual behavior is also affected by factors such as intimacy, sexual partner violence, and excessive stress.
3. Pelvic pain and entry barriers
The main symptoms in such women include:
Difficulty in having sex, symptoms of vaginismus
· Pain in the pelvis during sex ;
Women have pre-existing fears or anxiety about pain ;
·When trying to "negative distance", women will show significant tension or tightening of the pelvis .
As long as any of the above 4 conditions are met, and the duration exceeds 6 months, pelvic pain and access disorder can be diagnosed.
4. Sexual dysfunction caused by other substances or drugs
Women tend to experience sexual dysfunction after being exposed to certain substances or taking certain drugs (such as alcohol, sedatives, anti-anxiety drugs, and opioids) for a period of time. Non-substance and drug-induced sexual dysfunction should be considered if the problem does not improve significantly after tapering the dose of these substances or drugs or stopping exposure for a month.
3. How is your sex life?
Professor Jiang Hui, president of the Chinese Society of Sexuality, believes that Chinese people's sex lives are too good. Up to 42% of men over the age of 40 have erectile dysfunction, but many people are ashamed to go to the doctor and continue to make do with sex.
In addition to the low quality of sexual life, the frequency of Chinese people's sexual life is also not high.
A "Report on Sexual Wellbeing of the Post-80s and Post-90s in China" released in April 2018 shows that 72% of office workers in China are dissatisfied with their sex life, and 30% of them have no sex life and have been single for more than 5 years.
Discordant sex life can lead to marital crisis, and health science sex life has a series of advantages .
Several studies have found that satisfying sex can relieve physical pain, help relieve stress, lower blood pressure, and aid sleep. Sex more than 2 times a week can reduce the incidence of heart disease in men by 50%, while also promoting blood circulation and enhancing cardiopulmonary function.
Sex life 1-2 times a week can strengthen the body's immunity, improve its own anti-virus invasion ability by 30%, and reduce people's diseases. In addition, regular sex life can help prevent mental deterioration and brain aging, while also promoting metabolism and delaying the rate of memory loss. It can also help men protect the prostate and reduce the risk of prostate cancer.
Fourth, high-quality sex life, the doctor teaches you how to do it
Weng Zhiwei, an attending physician in the reproductive medicine department of the First Affiliated Hospital of Guangzhou University of Traditional Chinese Medicine , put forward some tips to help people have a high-quality sex life.
- Communication
Before sex, both partners should communicate affectionately, so that the other party feels that your love is sincere, and foreplay should be done well.
- Flirt
The order of stroking plays an important role in sexual life. In general, it is recommended to start with the least sensitive areas and work your way up to the most sensitive areas. Touching the most sensitive areas in the first place can backfire. During sex, you can use more sexual tools to add freshness.
- Seek medical treatment
Men should go to the hospital for treatment as soon as possible when they have symptoms such as impotence. Erectile dysfunction will affect erection hardness and sexual life frequency. As long as the patient seeks medical treatment and uses scientific medicine, the erectile hardness score of most men can be improved, and the sexual life satisfaction will also be improved.
Health science of sex life, can produce great advantages. If you want to improve the quality of your sexual life, you may wish to communicate more affectionately and flirt. If you find that you have sexual dysfunction, don’t be shy and seek medical treatment as soon as possible.
References:
[1] They say that "a woman is like a wolf at thirty and a tiger at forty", is this true? .Simple Psychology, 2020-11-12
[2] Don't want to applaud for love? You are sick. Medicine, 2020-07-25
[3] The current situation of Chinese people's sexual life: many people make do with it! .Health Times, 2020-04-28
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